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Social anxiety at university? Four books to relieve our stress

By Kushal Karki on 13-02-2018

University can be an overwhelming experience for students. A wider and self-independent environment will provide different challenges, and it is possible that people who have experienced social anxiety could find it difficult to socialize and accept acceptance or criticism. Thankfully, there are many researchers and scholars who can understand how to manage these negative feelings. Here are four of my recommendations.

 

How to make friends and people - Dale Carnegie

Remember school, when you were forced to get involved in those irritating group activities? Well, shockingly, university is nothing like that. There will be times where you will have personal responsibilities, and this will involve talking to people; living with flatmates, joining societies, group work and career opportunities at campus. This is a good thing for those who are not socially comfortable.

How to make friends and people is a classic, the lesson is to understand the value of the nature of relationships and communication. Having social intelligence can be incredibly beneficial as a university student, and for preparation for life after - and this book is a must-have for developing your social skills, as long as you put it into action.

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Feel the fear and do it anyway - Susan Jeffers

At university, perhaps there's that cute girl or guy you want to ask for, but that crippling fear of getting rejected can be debilitating, or maybe you have a presentation lined up in front of 100 people, but there's that judgmental voice in your head keeping you nervous. We all have our different fears and anxieties and social lives.

Feel the fear and do it anyway is a resourceful book in helping you to understand the core nature of your fears, while respecting that we all have our personal anxieties, in this case social phobia. Susan Jeffers teaches that you do not letting that voice in your head you are crucial to it, and this is only your problem.  

 

Methods of persuasion - Nick Kolenda

For any guys and girls, the art of negotiating and persuasion are essential skills, but people who are socially anxious can get their needs second,. This is as simple as negotiating who's paying for the pizza or getting your viewpoint across efficiently during student union elections.

While we are far away from learning Jedi mind tricks, Nick Kolenda highlights techniques from credible psychological research, which provides insight into how to deal with human behavior. thoughts and beliefs. This book can help you with university and beyond, especially when dealing with those stoic-faced job interviewers.university and beyond, especially when dealing with those stoic-faced job interviewers.

 

Ego is the enemy - Ryan Holiday

Not to be confused by Freud's term, the colloquial meaning of ego is the belief of one's self-importance, it's the same reason we try to protect our feelings against shame and criticism. University is a place of openness and free speech, and you will be confronted with what you think. this includes banter among friends or critic from your professor. Whatever the case, it's easy to protect yourself from being confronted and preserve your self-importance, but it's not ideal moving forward to where obstacles are inevitable.

Ego is the enemy An important insight is to emphasize the importance of self-reflection of your ego, this is a series of anecdotes of individuals who have achieved great things and their battle with their egos. historical figures such as Eleanor Roosevelt. This book will in no doubt educate you in your own life, which will lead you to a better experience in building a thicker skin.   

Kushal Karki writes for Inspiring Interns, which specializes in sourcing candidates for  internships . To browse our  graduate jobs London listings, visit our website.

 

Comments

  • James:

    20-02-2018

    Thoughtful and empathetic style! Keep it up, Kush!

  • Jack:

    15-02-2018

    Good article brudaaaa! Nice ting man


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